Are you often left in the dark with regrets, guilt, and sadness as time passes by, while most of your dreams, wishes, or desires seem elusive?
Do you often wonder how others seem to easily manifest success or get things going, yet you barely have anything to show for your age, time and efforts?
A closer look might let you come to the realization that It might just be because of one of the seven reasons below.
Why Your Goals, Dreams, Desires and Wishes are often Elusive !
1. Not having a strong desire, clear plan, purpose, or strategy in life.
This is one of the primary reasons for lack of success, i.e., failure. It manifest itsself as a lack of a burning desire, a lack of a vision, and thus a lack of a plan or strategy to achieve what you dream of or desire. It is rather unfortunate that many people go through life with no clear idea of what they really want, nor what it would take to have it, let alone why they want it in the first place. Life has many challenges, distractions, and obstacles. Having a clear idea and a strong desire is like a GPS or compass that will keep you focused on your north star or destination.
There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.
2. Lack of self-discipline
You see, everyone has 24 hours a day, i.e., 1440 minutes, yet others kind of magically tend to make much more out of those hours than others.
Let us do a self-analysis at this point in time: ask yourself as a good example. What productive task have you accomplished today with all the time you had.? What did you spend all those 24 hours yesterday doing?
Look around, and you will see many well-educated and talented people struggling to make ends meet in life, many living in developed nations and so called “nations of endless dreams and opportunities.” Perhaps it is the social media distractions, unproductive chats, vitality-sucking activities, and time-wasting habits which all go a long way to rob many potentially viable persons of their success.
“Character is the ability to carry out a good resolution long after the excitement of the moment has passed.”
3. Constantly making excuses.
There is something magical about excuses. If you seek an excuse for any shortcoming or whatever situation, you shall find one. Likewise, if you spin the excuse around, you could find a reason to be inspired or motivated. Indeed one of the most talented and innovative inventors of modern times, Henry Ford, was on point when he famously said: “Whether you think you can, or you think you cannot – you’re right.
Consider some of the most successful people in our society today. Oprah Winfrey immediately comes to mind:- a popular household name. Referencing her early life, she had so many usual reasons to give up, feel unfortunate or maybe be depressed; good explanations for being abused at a young age, perhaps even engage in self-deprecating and harmful behaviors; yet she stood tall and pushed on to be an inspiration for many today.
The English author JK Rowling did not hide her head in the sand; instead, she overcame much rejection until she found a relatively small firm willing to take a chance on her on the way to establishing the legendary Harry potter series cherished by many today. Nicole Kidman is said to have endured ectopic pregnancy, miscarriages, humiliation, and much more on her journey to becoming a caring mother and famous actress. And there is Katy Perry who also was rejected on her way to becoming a household name in the entertainment industry. Even well-known talents like Beyonce and Madonna did not always have it easy, yet they stood firm and tall; they too were reportedly shown the exit door at one point in time on their way to stardom. And there is the great Micheal Jordan, the strikingly rich Jeff Bezos, the famous Sylvester Stallone, Keanu reeves, Mark Cuban, and Stephen king, to name a few who overcame much adversity in some cases even more than many go through to make it to stardom. So dump off those excuses and start creating your dreams and living a happier life.
4. Blaming others and never one’s self.
On a personal note, my life changed for the better when I started taking full responsibility for my successes and failures. The thing is, there is always someone who will stand in your life path. Why not? Generally, people tend to primarily fight for their interests!
Once you realize you are the captain of your ship, the master of your life journey, you get into the driver’s seat and start choosing to make or mare your life. Like excuses, Blaming others is a trait common to most people who fall short in life.
Bluntly put, The truth is shit happens, always did, and always will, today or tomorrow( deserved or undeserved.)
Get over it! Sure sometimes it is worth fighting for your rights and proving your point. But realize that you take better control of your life and sail where you desire when you start reducing the blame game.
“You become a Victim when you blame yourself or others for some problem or error.”
— Jay Fiset
5. Not doing enough, i.e., grossly underestimating the efforts required to accomplish a task.
You see, Significant changes require significant actions and efforts. Don’t expect to cut down 50 pounds weekly by going to the gym once a month. It is true that each person has their pace in life and should move accordingly, but mind you, if you plan on traveling to texas from new york and walk like a snail, not only shall horses and cheetahs smoke you, but you might end up arriving when the party you planned to attend is over.
Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tire
6. Not being consistent, patient, and persistent enough.
The famous saying that Rome was not built in a day holds true here. Indeed, the routine, the habits, and the continuous grind eventually lead to the much-desired end results. Watch bricklayers at a construction site at work. Slowly but steadily, one brick is added onto another: come after a few months or years, and a mansion would have been created. Those consistent habits, the reliable extra bricks, are what make a difference in the long run.
In that light, mind what kind of bricks and how consistently you are laying them on each other daily. And be aware that if you dream of a mansion with 1000 bricks and your habit is laying one brick a year, guess when your mansion shall be completed? Ohh, by the way, don’t fool yourself; if you have difficulties laying down a brick daily today, you are not going to find it easier laying down 100 bricks in a day tomorrow.
When you look at people who are successful, you will find that they aren’t the people who are motivated but have consistency in their motivation.
7. Chronic procrastination and perpetual reeling in your comfort zone.
Are you scared of the unknown or anxious about taking reasonable risks and chances? Have you created a great plan but are waiting for the right time to begin? Procrastination is one of the greatest thieves of success. Watch students struggle to read the whole syllabus in a night after having more than a year at their disposal.
How often do you get excited about a dream project but choose to begin tomorrow, next week, or next month? Perhaps because you are waiting for the perfect moment. Or maybe simply put you are just outright lazy.
Now is the time, folks.
Fold your sleeves, get out of your comfort zone and start grinding and turning your dreams and wishes into reality !
I am kind of curious, What success traps have you identified along your life Journey so far?
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And as always keep spreading the happysimus vibe and mantra , happy self, happy people, happy world, Happy Life. Peace and love.